Estranged father’s wife demands money he sent to his 21-year-old daughter, claiming her children deserve it: ‘This woman said I was selfish and entitled, and I stole from her kids’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Apr 4, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Surprises can come in many forms, often with a price tag attached. Some of these surprises are like walking into an auto body shop expecting a simple oil change, only to be handed a bill that suggests you've been driving an old mine waiting for the right speed bump to go off on.

Being served a bill you didn't expect is an odd experience, but when it comes from people who are considered family it's much worse than a mechanic.

Just think of curious cases of unscheduled emotional maintenance, where individuals behave like shady mechanics, conjuring up costs for issues you never knew you had. They show up with invoices for emotional surcharges or neglect premiums—charges that seem as real as needing to replace your car's flumblenook filter or glintzen valve. You didn't know they exist, didn't ask for these repairs, nor did you agree to the service, but somehow, you're expected to pay. Surprise!

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  • This 21-year-old was confronted by her stepmother over a check her estranged father sent. The stepmother insisted the money was meant for her own children, not the recipient.

    The logic is baffling, the request unreasonable, but the lesson is clear: know when to dispute an invoice that you didn’t agree to pay.

    It’s a game of unexpected billing, where the only constant is the ridiculousness of the charges. Family relationships, where emotional labor becomes a currency that’s demanded without being earned. Learning to identify these phantom invoices and refusing to pay for services you never ordered is a must.

  • "AITA for not giving my estranged father's wife the money he sent me?"

    "She demanded the money, I told her it wasn't my problem"
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  • My father wasn't in my (21f) life growing up. He left mom and me when I was 2 and refused to pay child support. He quit his job when he was tracked down for support and he spent time in jail rather than pay. Eventually mom
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  • stopped fighting because it was going nowhere. She felt like it was wasting resources chasing after him when it was obvious he was going to avoid it however he could.
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  • A couple of years ago he moved about an hour away and I saw him for the first time since a court appearance when I was 8. We didn't speak either of those times
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  • but it surprised me that he came back. I found out he was married and had more kids from my paternal aunt. He'd reached out to her and wanted to reconnect
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  • and she told him where to go. She was always pretty disgusted he walked away like he did and refused to support me financially.
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  • In December my aunt told me he went to her house and left something for me there. I asked her what it was and she had no idea but she said it was in an
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  • Let me think about how it's not my problem

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  • envelope. I opened it and it was a check. And it was a big one too. I tried giving it to my mom but she told me to keep it and he owed me. That he abandoned me. And it was the least I deserved. I tried
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  • telling her she deserved it more but she wouldn't even entertain the idea. So after confirming it was legit I lodged it into my account.
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  • Then his wife came looking for the money by going to my aunt's house for me. My aunt made her leave and I wasn't even there but she showed up a few days later when I was there and she demanded the money. She said it
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  • was money that was meant to go on her kids. That he had no right to drain their accounts for me. I told her it wasn't my problem and my aunt threatened to call the cops.
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  • She showed up at my aunts house again a few days after and my aunt followed through and called the cops. But apparently this woman left the message that I was selfish and entitled and I stole it from her kids.
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  • Patient Meaning Don't respond to this woman at all. If she continues to pester you about it, get a restraining order. You owe her nothing.
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  • Rasil Bathbone NTA. Not your monkey, not your circus. Your absent dad is definitely TA for you, and it seems like he's being TA to his current family as well. But you are no less entitled to that money than they are, and his current wife isn't
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  • entitled to harass you or his sister over an issue she has with him. You aunt was right to involve the police, and she should do it again if it happens again. Take your
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  • mom out for a nice dinner, and then use the money in whatever way is best for you.
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  • forgetregret1 day If she has a problem with it, tell her to go track down the deadbeat that gave it to you, but if she doesn't stop harassing you and your family members, you'll file a restraining order against her.
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  • She's nothing to you and you owe her nothing, certainly not your peace of mind or the money he chose to give you. Make sure your bank account is secured and password protected as well as your credit history.
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  • There's no telling what crazy people will try when it comes to money. It's yours, freely given, and she can pound sand if she doesn't like it. NTA. Stay strong.
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  • shaihalud69 It's a certain kind of extreme trash that dates a man who she knows is actively avoiding child support. Doubtless she did something that he didn't like and this was her punishment. Not your circus, take the money guilt-free.
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  • Con4America NTA> Do NOT give that woman a single cent. You deserve that money because he was supposed to pay child support all those years. Take care of your mom when she needs it with the money. It's the respectful thing to do.
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